Reason Season Lifetime

Reason Season Lifetime

By: Brian A. "Drew" Chalker

People always come into your life for a reason, a season and a lifetime. When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, or to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually. They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are. They are there for a reason,you need them to be. Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die, Sometimes they just walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilleed; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
When people come into your life for a SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season. And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall, the season eventually ends.

LIFETIME, relationships teach you a lifetime of lessons; those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life. It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant. Thank you for being part of my life.....

I noticed you have "A reason A season and A lifetime" on your website. My husband wrote this and is currently applying for a copyright for the piece. Would you mind adding his name as the author? His name is Brian A. "Drew" Chalker. I noticed that you do not have the original version. At the end of this email, Ive added the original version and would appreciate very much if you would change your page to reflect it.

Thanks in advance,
Drew and Lori Chalker

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Reason, Season, or Lifetime

What are you??? Are you a Reason a Season or a Lifetime?

Pay attention to what you read. After you read this, you will know the reason it was sent to you! People come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime. When you figure out which one it is, you will know what to do for each person.

When someone is in your life for a REASON. . . It is usually to meet a need you have expressed. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are! They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong
doing on your part, or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered. And now it is time to move on.

Then people come into your life for a SEASON. Because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They bring you an experience of peace, or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons; things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation. Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person, and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life. It is said that love is blind
but friendship is clairvoyant.

THANK YOU for being a part of my life.

Work like you don't need the money
Love like you've never been hurt, and
dance like no one is watching.

User Comments

If the original was with red roses opening, can you tell me about the
piano music that goes with it. Thanks Philip

philip vinton on December 09, 2005 at 03:35

The original version was simply text content. Anything added beyond
text was added by whoever put it into a webpage.

Lori Chalker on January 05, 2006 at 12:56

Lori,I have recieved this piece of poem at the end of 2004 and since
been attracted by like other people.I have been locate the original
author for a long time.I have been writing a book:'where your love
belongs to' and have the interest of knowing about the background of
your husband and the thoughts that affect his writing when he wrote
this article.looking forward to your reply.regards,lyllia29/01/07

lyllia on January 27, 2007 at 07:50

Can anyone guide me to the original poem version of Reason, Season,
Lifetime?

Linda on February 23, 2007 at 09:11

I am shocked to see that someone else is attempting to claim the
rights to something that I wrote back in 2004. I remember exactly the
time, the place, and what was going through my mind in that very
moment I wrote it. It was originally supposed to be a song, and the
title was the first thing I came up with. I was going through a very
difficult time in my life, and writing brings me much comfort. It's a
theraputic process for me. Since it was very personal to me, I only
decided, reluctantly, to share it with a couple of friends, via email.
Now it is all over the internet. While I'm greatly pleased to see that
it has had such an impact on others - that my personal feelings and
thoughts could bring comfort to others, I am frustrated at the same
time that someone else is claiming to have written it, and I'm not
sure how to proceed with this. I don't mean to come across harshly,
however, I am wondering how someone could morally think it's right to
claim something that isn't their's. I'd be happy to share my feelings
and thoughts behind what promted my writing this piece and I
apologize, in advance for sounding rude, but I am frustrated.

Misty on July 10, 2007 at 10:26

I would like for Brian A Drew Chalker to step up with documentation on
this. I personally know the individual that wrote this and will go to
the extremes to see that she gets the credit and the Copywrite that
she deserves!

Don on July 12, 2007 at 01:24

Actually Don, I'm calling B.S. on your statement. Somewhere else you
claim your friend wrote this in 2004. Reason, Season, Lifetime has
been going all over the Internet since at least 2000-when I first read
it.

Jayde on July 20, 2007 at 03:00

The Reason and Season is actually published in on Iyanla Vanzant book
Acts of Faith (copyright 1993) or Faith in the Valley (copyright
1996). I don't remember which one, I have both books.

Keandra on August 23, 2007 at 02:20

For those who really want to know the truth. This is the first time I
tell this and the last time I will ever speak of it, so the vultures
can have their fun. I wrote this for a friend in 1995, a girl that I
loved dearly from afar. We were friends but never any more, we were
like cake and ice cream but her understanding of love and mine were
different and she met someone she thought she was in love with, got
married and moved away. We use to chat on AOL and when she moved we
would leave notes for each other on a bulletin board. The man she
married didn’t like it and made her stop writing to me. But I knew
that even if she couldn’t write she may still read. So I wrote this
for her and disguised it as an open post but I signed it with my last
name so only she would know it was for her. Because only she knew
that, he didn’t. She never replied and I never heard from her
again. I found out years later from running into a friend of her
mothers, that she had died giving birth two her second child. You
cant imagine the devastation I felt to hear that, and how I wish that
I never had. Although I cannot take complete credit for this peace
because it was inspired by a preacher of my church of my youth. His
name was Rev. Bill Jeffcoat. He was a hansom man that kept the
congregation filled because the women thought he was so attractive. I
grew up in a small Baptist community and everyone went to church.
Anyway, Rev. Bill would at times told this sermon about how god sends
people into our lives for a reason, to fulfill a need or to guide us
in some way, and the way we can tell they were a god send is that they
would just appear in our life fulfill a need and that they were gone.
He said we all have them show up in our lives in one season or
another, it could be the spring of our youth, the summer of our
adulthood, the fall of our retirement, or the winters of the end of
our lives. And sometimes they have an impact or a lesson for us that
last a lifetime. So you see it was not all me, I took his words and
made them my own. But of course these were not his either they belong
to one of the apostles; I just don’t know which one. And that the
story I have never told a living soul, until now. It turned out to be
my eulogy to a lost love that circled the globe and has never stopped.
No copyright could ever match that. So you liars can have it, it
will come back to you. In the form of Karma if it hasn’t already.
J. Coker

J. Coker on August 23, 2007 at 02:35

It's very sad to see all the fightng over this beautiful piece. What
a shame. Whom ever wrote this...it's more than wonderful. Thank you,
and only you.

Teresa on September 04, 2007 at 03:11

I don’t know who wrote the poem Reason, Season, Lifetime. But I know
it was around in 1986. My mother-in-law received the poem on a plaque
from a nurse in the ICU. My father-in-law had just passed away, after
surviving triple by-pass surgery only then to get a staff infection.
The nurse had been one of the many wonderful people that helped us
during that difficult time in our lives. The reason the nurse said she
had given my mother-in-law the plaque was because of how wonderful
our whole family was and how we HELPED her get back to the Lord. So I
don’t know who wrote it or how long ago it was written. But I do
know the plaque was sold in a Christian book Author Unknown at the
bottom back in 1986.

Tres on September 05, 2007 at 06:59

Hey, it is a crying shame when someone else cries FOUL on a piece of
work that has long since been in existence for sometime now. Maybe
even before that there was a Internet. So, let me tell it to you like
this - though I retain copyright documentation - and am willing to
show it - I would much rather that it is spread throughout the
Internet (albeit anonymously) and that way, it will reach the world...
anyone who attaches (will attach; has attached) shall be prosecuted to
the full extent of the law, with no limitations.

Angry REAL Copyright Owner... on September 18, 2007 at 07:30

To all you guys "claiming to have authored this beautiful piece in
2004, please stop lying, i don't know who did, but i do know it was
read out and moved me at my friends funeral in 2001........ whoever
did create this...Thank you for sharing it

Shar on November 13, 2007 at 07:31

OMG This is silly so many people one very profound poem. I know this
poem has been around for some time. I know people in recovery use
this poem alot. I dont understand how someone can say they wrote it
when they didnt. Who ever did write it Than you. It helps alot when
you need understanding of why someone is no longer around.In Death or
just circumstance ,move or resentment what ever it might be . This
peopm helps to put it into percpective. Thank you again.

Just Me on January 07, 2008 at 07:35

I read this poem (original)sometime after the summer of 1988. The
reason I know this is that I was going through a very difficult
divorce and someone had brought this poem to my attention. I never had
the opportunity to copy the words down but through the many
challenging years carried the meaning of it with me. I recently told
my adult daughter about it to help her through her own crisis. It
still holds the same meaning and I thank whoever gave so many hope
when it seemed there was none.

Cathy on January 18, 2008 at 12:52

who gives a crap who wrote it? It's beautifuil.. let it go!

Lindsay on February 21, 2008 at 08:56

On a Power Point presentation I received, there is some very
apppropiate music for Reason, Season, Lifetime. Can anyone tell me
how to transfer this music and use it on another Power Point for
Reason, Season...?

Carl R. Hall on April 04, 2008 at 03:33

I dont care WHO wrote it, from now on If I choose to post this, I will
write "Annonymous" as human beings these days are immature and
juvenile. I don't blame you for feeling rightfully violated in a sense
(WHOMever you may be) but lets be realistic. I post over 300 poems on
a website - the moment I post one - by even a SCREEN NAME COPYRIGHTS
THIS TO ME! read your laws. Same works for email or any other public
form of expression. Whoever truly wrote it should be confident in
knowing this.

Heartagold on April 07, 2008 at 05:59

I saw this first in Iyanla Vanzant's book "Acts of Faith" in the early
90's.

Angie Taylor on April 12, 2008 at 02:51

just would like 2 thank da person who actually did write this
beautiful piece of poetry.It has inspired me over the years n kept me
going for you see I left a extremelly violent relationship after
20yrs.i suffer with BPD and I am coming out of da other side. This
poem was given to me in 2004 after i left da X.It gives me a greater
understanding of life itself. Whoever did write it was inspired by God
himself. Thank you my christian friend. X

Julez on May 19, 2008 at 05:35

I am proud of anyone that could write a positive for this life. I
believe we should all try our best to be encouraging to all who become
part our sphere. God is watching us, ask yourself..Would God approve
of how I treat others? Be honest. =)

Jean Henderson on July 01, 2008 at 11:42

This is a beautiful piece of writing whoever wrote i would like to say
thankyou very much i will never forget this poem.....

aman on July 14, 2008 at 02:06

This is a beautiful poem. I read it at my good friends funeral a few
years back. I will also be reading it at my grandmothers funeral this
weekend. I would love to give the right person credit for this.
Please tell me how to do that. This poem has ment alot to me and it
is so true. Whomever the author please be proud that it helps others
as it helped you get through difficult times.

Brenda on July 15, 2008 at 03:05

The bible states that ALL GOOD THINGS COME FROM GOD. so, who is the
author? HE IS...

Ryan on July 27, 2008 at 09:51

Frankly, I don't care who wrote the poem...however, THE original
author who wrote this should be very proud and honored that others
want to steal it. I felt that the author was very insightful,
heartfelt, and loving. I found it about 2 years ago and has made a
significant impact in my life. I just had a request from a client who
wants this poem. Many who read it love it; myself included and for
that...Thank you very much and God bless.

Carmella Young on December 14, 2008 at 06:44

PEOPLE! YOU TYPE TOO MUCH AND STOP SITTING ON UR FUCKIN COMPUTOR AND
PLAY A SPORT OR SOME KIND OF FUCKIN THING THAT GETS YOU OFF UR FUCKIN
COMPUTOR

julian on January 22, 2009 at 04:42

I love this lovely poem. I wouldnt mind to know who wrote it but,
where can I get it as a lovely print? I use it for my girlfriends
whenever there is a break up!!! its so uplifting!!

Irma on February 07, 2011 at 03:26

..reading this poem was like the whispering of and answer to my soul.
So many people have come & gone in my life, and for years I felt
abandon by my so called "friends" . It used to hurt me AND I couldn't
understand how they would come & then go. This poem which has
given me peace .

Dorothy on February 10, 2011 at 07:25

Why dont all you people who claim to have writen this poem, each and
all of you, re write your own poems, and share it all with us all, im
sure there will be many heart felt passion and warmth from each poem,
we all win, no losers.

mark Whitfield on March 15, 2011 at 02:22

I WAS SENT THIS---and HAVE TAKEN COMFORT IN IT MANY TIMES----I OFTEN
GO BACK AND REFER TO VERSE---TO REMING MYSELF---GOD SEND'S US
'HELP' IN MYSTERIOUS WAYS...WHO EVER WROTE THIS----THANKS FOR THE
INSIGHT...

Barb on March 19, 2011 at 03:01

A beautiful poem.. A valuable lesson.. Thank u, whosoever d original
poet is..

Vidula VSV on May 21, 2011 at 11:35

I got curious when somebody mentioned Brian Andrew Chalker's beautiful
piece of writing,so sdurfed and got this gem!Oh,many thanks, Brian,
you are a great soul!Please send this to me by e-mail!

Portia on May 22, 2011 at 06:41

I do not know who wrote this but I do know that in 2005 I found a
printed version of this in a buggy in walmart when I was at the lowest
point of my life. I was in a very abusive relationship feeling used,
abused, and miss treated by all the people who claimed to love me the
most. When i found this poem it gave me hope and I have long since
shared my story of finding this poem and made copies sharing it with
any and everyone that will hear it. I never claimed to write. thank
you to the author!!!

charlene on May 26, 2011 at 05:42

I concur. I believe everyone that comes into your life is a piece of
the puzzle. And once…all the pieces have been placed together, the
puzzle is complete, thus fulfilling your journey. Such a beautiful and
relevant poem, thanks for sharing.

Indian Tv Serial on July 16, 2011 at 03:04

@julian The pathetic comment you wrote gave the impression that you
are heartless and insensitive. Your pathetic comment justifies to us
to stay away from people like you. Your Heartless.

mythoughts on July 27, 2011 at 09:43

Whoever wrote this "poem" is a very selfish, self-centered, it is all
about me person. We should RUN away from people like you who believe
in this

Athought on August 08, 2011 at 04:47

I am in complete agreement w/Atthough above. This poem imo, is a
narcissistic diatribe about "ME, ME, ME". I wish ppl would read beyond
the sentiment and new age-y b.s. this poem is founded upon. Am I
cynical? Perhaps, but the naivete' seeping throughout this flimsy
piece is astonishing. To think that ppl have reduced love and
friendship through the narrow, self centered POV of the author, tells
me most folks 'out there' aren't thinking originally, nor deeply.

pallie on November 25, 2011 at 10:58

Actually,it is nearsighted to say the poem is about "me". It is about
GOD and what he is doing in my life with the people he brings into my
life. It is about the things I can't control but GOD does control.
It is about letting GOD be GOD with the people in my life and letting
Him move people in and out of my life in the ways He chooses. The
people above are too busy judging the trees to notice the forest.

Sally on November 30, 2011 at 05:15

I did this.

ohnrex Oseo on December 13, 2011 at 08:31

I invented the internet, and I also wrote this when I was in the womb
so everybody else should stop plagiarising me...!!!

Jeff on January 14, 2012 at 12:43

Feel blessed you can identify with the meaning. Thank yourself first
as the one that was gifted with the ability to communicate it learned
it from observation of his/her experiences. To this humanity is
responsible. Each and every last soul. Vanity should not hold a
place in the gift these words bring to the saddened souls it
touches. Namaste'

me on April 25, 2012 at 11:24

me aysmsn on April 25, 2012 at 11:26

Please delete my name Brian "Drew" Chalker from this. This was
something cruel my "ex" posted all over the internet. Evertytime I
find something referencing my name, I ask that it be removed. It was
written by Iyanla Vanzant then summarized into an email that was never
supposed to go viral. I thank you for your cooperation in removing my
name from this webpage.

Drew on July 12, 2012 at 12:43

I've read all the comments, and there's three that specifically credit
Iyanla Vanzant with this piece of writing and even give the
publication and date. It seems many who comment haven't actually read
any of the other comments and are just jumping in with their version
of the truth, which takes away from the credibility of their claims.
I'm just trying to find out who wrote it, and if you critically read
the comments, it seems to me Iyanla Vanzant did. Thank-you, Iyanla.

Jonathan on August 30, 2012 at 05:10

it is such a beautiful poem, God bless who ever wrote it>

Adam on November 20, 2012 at 06:10

Eat my ass

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