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• It is far more impressive when others discover your good qualities without your help.
  -- Miss Manners (Judith Martin)...
• We are all born charming, fresh and spontaneous and must be civilized before we are fit to participate in society.
  -- Judith Martin, "Miss Manners' Guide to Excruciatingly Correct Behaviou...
• If you are rude to your ex-husband's new wife at your daughter's wedding, you will make her feel smug.
  Comfortable. If you are charming and polite, you will make her feel uncomfortable....
• The polite thing to do has always been to address people as they wish to be addressed, to treat them in a way they think dignified.
  But it is equally important to accept and tolerate different standards of courtesy, not expecting everyone else to adapt to one's own preferences....
• The birds are singing, the flowers are budding, and it is time for Miss Manners to tell young lovers to stop necking in public.
  It's not that Miss Manners is immune to romance. Miss Manners has been known to squeeze a gentleman's arm while being helped over a curb, and, in her wild youth, even to press a dainty slipper against a foot or two under the dinner table....